How to Win Friends and Influence People
Comments and mentions from HN threads:
Ask HN: Non-tech books that have helped you grow professionally?
romanhn: IMO, required reading for understanding and communicating with people.
Ask HN: Books you wish you had read earlier?
Amogha_IO: I bought this book freshman year in college. I tried reading it then and gave up / got bored after the first few pages. I really wish I had actually made an effort to read the whole thing...
smaddox: [...] because it changed my understanding of people for the better.
bradbatt: Absolutely everyone should read this book. I wish it had a better title. "Understanding People" would be an excellent one.
Ask HN: What are the books you wish your colleagues had read?
jawns: I'm not saying my coworkers are a bunch of jerks, but it's got a lot of great advice for working alongside others and resolving differences.
Ask HN: Best books or videos to get better at sales?
thinkdevcode: As far as understanding people, the de facto book to read
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Ask HN: What books do you wish your manager would read?
maxaf: If there's a single book I wish everyone had read - not just managers - it would be this. I'd market it as "manual for human beings". You learn how to deal with them, as well as how to be one.
Ask HN: Which books have made you introspect?
gadders: Made me realise that 99.99% of anything you want to to do, you have to do by working through other people, and the best way to do that 99.99% of the time is to befriend and get on with people as far as possible.
Ask HN: Which books do you wish you'd read earlier in life?
WheelsAtLarge: You need people to succeed. Making enemies or just treating people indifferently is a bad move.
alok-g: The book had opened my mind on how people react to criticism.
Ask HN: What are your favorite books of all time, and why?
cvolzer3: It could have just as easily been named "How to be a Good Person". Carnegie's advice is practical, yet powerful. I return to it every few months to make sure I'm staying on track.
Ask HN: Best book / resources on leadership, especially for tech teams?
Stronico: Not really about leadership per se, but it helps you get out of your own way which allows a lot of other good things room to happen.
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Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?
Balgair: A LOT of people are put off by the name of the book. I would highly suggest you not judge Carnegie's book by it's cover. It is filled with brass-tacks advice and concrete examples of how to improve your own life and the lives of others around you. ...
jpollock: It changed how I approach teamwork and conversations. It made me aware of how my behaviour was limiting outcomes. ...
chuckgreenman: Become genuinely interested in people, make them feel good, they will appreciated it. The advice is essentially don't be a jerk and do talk to people about the things they are interested. When you start doing that it's like playing life on easy mode.
komali2: The definitive guidebook to interpersonal relations. Taught me empathy.
Ask HN: What was the one book that you read and it actually changed your life?
skookumchuck: It's an enduring classic for good reason.
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Ask HN: Which non-programming books are a beneficial read for programmers?
Ask HN: Books on specific topics that have applied to many areas of your life?
cannonedhamster: This book starts off as a business book but it is the single most useful book I have ever read. For some people they will find that it's second nature, for those of us on the less socially aware side of the spectrum it's like an instruction manual for communicating effectively without coming off as a creep.
Ask HN: What are your favorite non-fiction books of all time?
TeMPOraL: From the father of the whole genre of self-help/personal development, and one whose books are still probably the only good ones in this genre, Dale Carnegie. They explain exactly what it says in their titles.
Ask HN: Are there any books that inspire or highly influence the way you work?
MaxLeiter: Dramatically changed me as a person (with some effort, which the foreword explains)
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Ask HN: What are the books that changed the perspective of your life?
jonawesomegreen: A classic, but it has really helped change the way I deal with people.
Ask HN: Book Recommendations?
Ping_2_Ur_Pong: The definitive guide to helping you work better with people, truly great book, should be required reading
Ask HN: What language-agnostic programming books should I read?
Rannath: Anyone who works collaboratively with people needs to be able to communicate effectively.
beat: Not creepy at all, despite how the title sounds in today's language. This book is the bible of how to get along with others. It's been in continuous print since before WWII, for good reason.
Ask HN: Best books you read in 2012
xfax: Simple, to the point and effective.
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Ask HN: Which book have you re-read recently?
henrik_w: Timeless wisdom that is good to be reminded of regularly.
Ask HN: What book impacted your life the most and how?
WalterBright: elped me a lot with social skills that are obvious to most people but not to me. It's still something I work on regularly, it doesn't come naturally.
Ask HN: As a technical founder what is the best business book you've read?
colinbartlett: I found How to Win Friends and Influence People very helpful to my career and to my life.
Ask HN: What books fundamentally changed the way you think about the world?
embarassed_toss: Learning to talk to people, to deal with people, learning the give and take of conversations and to try to be interested in people -- this has completely changed my life. It works in business, it works in personal relationships. ...
Ask HN: Which non-technology book has influenced you the most and why?
1ba9115454: I have to keep reminded myself to apply the rules, but very sound advice.
Ask HN: Which books have helped you the most professionally?
joshka: Helped me solve some approaches to handling people in general and highlighted a few approaches that I had been taking that were actively causing me problems.
Ask HN: What three books impacted your career the most?
gadders: All of your working life is built on relationships, even if you code all day.