Crucial Conversations

Books recommended with this one:

Comments and mentions from HN threads:

Ask HN: What three books impacted your career the most?

andersthue: To learn how to talk and listen and talk to people without ruining the conversation and the possibilities from it

Ask HN: What books fundamentally changed the way you think about the world?

embarassed_toss: Learning to talk to people, to deal with people, learning the give and take of conversations and to try to be interested in people -- this has completely changed my life. It works in business, it works in personal relationships. ...

Ask HN: What books have made the biggest impact on your mental models?

i_dont_know_: Breaks down how to have what might otherwise be an uncomfortable conversation about anything. I really think everyone should read it.

Ask HN: Books on specific topics that have applied to many areas of your life?

cniemira: ...can be life changers if you follow even a little of their guidance. The techniques I've picked up have helped me build stronger relationships with my spouse, my children, my customers, my employees, and my peers.

Ask HN: What are the books you wish your colleagues had read?

andersthue: Will teach you and your colleagues how to communicate and maintain an open and centered dialouge while removing bad intentions and bad mindsets from your being.

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Ask HN: Which books have made you introspect?

hosh: It was very practical advice grounded in psychological research, yet very much in alignment with all the things leading up to it. It wasn't a pancea, but reading this and trying to apply it was probably the inflection point in my relationship with my wife.

andersthue: another really important book that teaches how to safely deal with very hard conversations.

Ask HN: Which non-programming books are a beneficial read for programmers?

toddwprice: If resolving conflict is a skill that you are weak in, this or any book that promotes growth in that area will lead to improved satisfaction on the job for both you and your colleagues.

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Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

dkoston: I read these books when I first got into management and they changed so many things about the way I communicate with others. Everything in the books is obvious but things I was never taught growing up. Learning how to understand others' intentions by the totality of their body language along with what they say is incredibly important. It's helpful for diffusing tense situations, understanding whether or not strangers pose a threat, easing tension in a relationship, etc.

mawise: In my educational upbringing there was never any exploration of emotional intelligence and how to communicate. Since reading this book I notice elements it describes in basically every meaningful conversation I have.